Family Planning

Warning to all readers: You might be offended if you have children, so read on at your own risk!

So I promise that I'm not losing sleep over this, but it's something I've noticed lately. It annoys me when people say things like, "In the next year or two we're going to start having kids," or even worse, "In the spring of next year we'll start trying for kids." Do people really think they can plan procreation down to the season of the year? Maybe part of why it bothers me is that people really can do this - they start trying for kids and are pregnant by the next month. But it also seems weird to me that in this day and age we go by the calendar to plan when our children will be born. It doesn't seem natural - back in the day children came when they came. Two people got married then started having kids (if possible). It was that simple.

And on that note, I've totally been bugged by this girl in my ward. She's about to have her third child and is complaining that it's another boy, not a girl. Waa, waa. But she told me about how she's grateful that she's having kids so quickly so that she can be done early, the grandparents will still be young and active with her kids, and in case anything happens (i.e. early menopause) at least she'll already have multiple children. So good for her! No, I can see these perks. But she knows that I can't have kids - we've totally had a conversation about this before. And yet she goes on and on about kids. Some people just aren't very sensitive. I'm learning that more and more, the longer this infertility thing goes on. But if I can't fix other people, at least I can vent about them!

Like I said, I promise I'm not totally depressed about this or anything. I just have little tolerance for ingnorant or insensitive people. I'm not expecting flowers or long talks about how hard infertility must be (really, I do just fine without these). But how about plain human decency? Come on, it's not that hard to show a little empathy!